rules of the game or sexercises

i'm breaking this up because this is important.

i don't want you to just skip over this stuff.

BEFORE you leap into bed with your new ethnic hottie -


1. be honest with yourself – what’s your secret, private view of the “other” person. what is exciting about it? what is weird? do you hate uncircumsized penises? do piercings make you squeamish?

2. more honesty: what are you willing to do? what stereotypes are you willing to give up?

3. talk about it. not about how hot and sexy you are or someone else is. not about how desperate you are to have sex with someone. but honestly, with your partner. it usually is easier to do when you are not about to have sex. talk about it when you are both in the car and can look out the window when it’s too awkward to catch each other’s gaze.

this is also a good moment to talk about stds. especially the incurable and/or fatal variety.

and while you're here, you might as well get the condom question out in the open.

even if this is your wedding night.

4. NEXT - talk about it with your close friends if it doesn’t embarass you to death. get a sense of how human you are. trade some stories. this is not an opportunity to make stuff up to impress your homies. this is a chance to connect in a safe space.

5. also essential - exercise. eat healthy food. get enough sleep. don’t smoke. your body really is your temple. live in it. be good to your body and it will be good to you. and to others.

sex is always better when you are healthier.

(not convinced? they say women who do pilates and yoga have better orgasms. just a thought.)